Why Years & Years Deserve All The Attention And More

When I was growing up, discovering my own awkward differentness from everyone around me, and feeling completely alone and cut off from the world because of what I would come to identify as my sexual orientation, I was desperate to connect with someone, anyone, who might offer an example to me of what being gay was about and how it would look in context outside of my own small sphere of influence. I would have given anything to have had a role model with whom to relate, and I believe with all my heart that having had one would have made those awful teenage years much easier to bear. But I didn’t. It wasn’t until I was already through the worst part of growing up and coming out that role models started popping up on television or print media in ways that were positive rather than scandalous. It very well may have been Ellen DeGeneres’ famous on-air coming out that broke the seal for others to follow in her wake. By that time, I’d found my footing, and whatever damage was done by having figured out my sense of self without a guidepost was already done.

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Modern Gay Boys Cannot Take “Top” & “Bottom” Away From Us

There seems to be a pervasive attitude among the very fortunate new generation of “modern” gay youngsters that any gay man who considers himself to be fully, without exception, 100% top or 100% bottom is just ridiculous and cannot be taken seriously. “Every man is a little bi-sexual”, one very bold and irascible little boy, still growing out of his baby fat told me, “and every gay man is at least a little bit. . .”

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